Today has been a day of waiting. Nothing too big- just annoying is all. I don’t think I hate waiting as much as having to “depend” on someone else AND wait for them to respond. Wait a minute…is that not what waiting is all about? When we wait we are consciously or unconsciously depending on somebody or thing to do something before we can act or move on with our lives…
Oh hell naw! I thought this was gonna be an easy entry. Now I’ve done it. I’ve embarked on an ocean deep subject purely by accident. WAITING…WAITING…
Geez, when one waits they are not in control. When one waits they are beholding to whom? God, what would you call them? That person or thing that makes you wait. I suppose I would liken it to the person who holds the remote control to a toy. The toy only moves when the “Holder” pushes a button or flips a switch.
So what types of things do we wait for? Buses, spouses to come home from work, kids to get home from school, taxis, paychecks, places to open for business and for our lives to begin. We wait to get that cute outfit before joining the gym (gotta be cute right?).
We wait till the last minute to do our taxes and we wait for somebody to make the first move. We even do the absurd thing of waiting till the end of our meal to eat dessert. The list is endless. I would venture to say ('cause I haven't done any scientific research) that we spend way too much time waiting for shit. I had a friend who used to always say that her Grandmother would always say "Wait? Wait for what?" I like that. And I think I might have liked her Grandmother as well. She definitely had her head screwed on straight, even if it was the 40's.
Yeah I suppose we do have to wait for some things to come full circle but we sometimes play the waiting game when we should otherwise be moving on. Take for instance that boyfriend of yours that you're waiting on to change. You might as well forget it. He ain't gonna. He was like that when you met him. What makes you think he's going to change now? It's been too long and you've tolerated his bullshit too long. You now have a couple of choices and a motivational speaker said it best: "Never complain about what you permit. Do something about it or shutup about it." Those are your choices.
What about waiting for someone to make the first move? This can be so tiring. You know what you ought to do and are seemingly ready to do it but, you hesitate because you'd like someone else to make the first move. This type of waiting is born of fear. Fear of scrutiny and rejection. The former is also born of fear only it's coupled with denial. This is the worst kind of waiting because it involves a diminishing of self in the process.
To wait means to remain inactive in one place while expecting something. Golly. Inactive is a strong word and it also doesn't conjure up any positive images either. And, the mere fact that the definition states that one remains "in one place" is also very telling about the state- that is waiting. It is little wonder after 15 minutes or so of waiting for you, your friend leaves your ass.
It's because the very act of waiting is unnatural in many respects. It suggests a time of stagnation (albeit short lived). But ahh...technology is here to ease our pain. These days people fill up wait time by catching up on email via their "Crack Berries" and by sending endless loops of tweets via Twitterberry, Tweetdeck (and a ton of other applications that complement Twitter).
I suppose your wait time is what your make it. We do have choices these days whereas before we did not. I for one am waiting for the love of my life to be manifested, for my millions to be deposited and for my assistant to phone me with the details of my trip to Europe.
Now...that is something worth waiting for...
Be Well
