Resolution, Revelation...Revolution

So...I'm finally back to work now.  I can't tell if I feel good or if I feel bad.  Actually? I believe I just feel.  That's it.  I  just "feel".

Nothing special one way or the other.  I guess I'm glad to be back just to be sure they haven't given my job over to somebody else.  Yeah... I just needed to be sure it was still there (and to just "feel").  Ear's better though.  One more appointment and I will be all shored up. 

And now... on to the subject of today's entry:  You know how each year we resolve ourselves to do something?  You know, we resolve ourselves to lose weight or save more money or make our beds everyday- even.  There is always something.

The new year looms and we make up a half-assed resolution to make ourselves feel better.  Don't get me wrong.  It's not that I don't believe in resolutions, it's just that I believe deep down that we don't actually believe we'll achieve them when we make them.

In some strange, warped way, a resolution it not really a goal in our minds (eventhough technically in it's truest form it is).  We have made them (proclaimed may be more appropriate) then broken them so often that the actual "tradition" of the resolution is to make it, then break it.  No one ever really carries through with a resolution.  I've come to believe it's psychological.

We are conditioned.  It's the word "resolution"  itself that's the culprit.  We subconsciously associate "resolution" with quitting or not following through.  We are conditioned (bless our little hearts).

 Now, if we were to call them goals and set target dates, that would be a different animal altogether.  A goal implies accountability.  You may let someone down if  you don't achieve your goal.  Whereas if you break your New Year's Resolution- no one would really give a shit nor would they hold you accountable. 

You would be scot free.  Invariably getting by unscathed.  And quite fortunate to not have the judgmental - you failed gaze of friends and family.  They would all understand.  After all, it was merely a resolution.  You get no condemnation for breaking a resolution- you're expected to. 

So why do we make them?  Tradition.  That would be the proverbial long and short of it.  We make New Year's Resolutions because it's just what ya do at the beginning of a new year.   We make resolutions because everybody else does.  And we break them because everybody else does.  Both are equally expected.

True goals are left for planning in the latter part of the year (or worse yet when we're pressed for time and/or need to make others think we've changed).  Which brings me to the "Revelation" portion of today's entry:  I have discovered that if we make our resolutions quietly, within the confines of our own heart that we would fare much better at seeing them through to fruition.

Our secret (unattainable) resolutions would be safely tucked away in our psyches.  We would be free to make, break and start anew as freely as we pleased.  Liberating huh?  This is the  revelation of the resolution - keep it to yourself.  It's easier that way.

Which brings me to the revolution of this entry:  In order to really be successful when it comes to resolutions - one must take the bull, that is your life, by horns (with a firm grip) and not let go.  You have to scream at the top of your lungs, say you're mad as hell and that you're not gonna take it anymore- then start your own private revolution to create change in your life.

The drama of your own private revolution will stir something deep within.  And maybe, just maybe your resolution will be transformed into a goal with a real focus.  Thus rendering it attainable.  The year is still young.  You have time.  Get ta steppin'!

Be Well